A Year In – New Month – Imposters

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Hey guys, welcome back! And hey, welcome to May!! I’m still in shock that we are already five months into this year. It still feels like February to me.

Anywhoo, there has been a lot going on, which explains my staggered posts as of late (sorry) and I missed the year anniversary of when I began writing my current book. Btw, I say ‘current’ since the first one, that needs a ton of editing, was finished a while back. 

So here it is, a year later. Hundreds of thousands of words written and thousands cut and lately it seems I’ve really been making some good progress on it. I think one of the things I’m starting to allow myself to do is take a night off here and there. I started pushing myself so hard to try and get this finished, that I started to lose the spark of the story and it felt more like a chore than anything else. After having to take a few nights off because I wasn’t feeling well, I picked it back up again and suddenly I was able to rework and cut a lot of stuff. After that happened, I realized that there would be nights I just didn’t have it in me to work on the book and told myself that it would be ok if I put it away for the night. The next time I opened it back up again? More progress. So see, there is a reason to take time off from things. To relax and recharge!

Now for some news of the odd persuasion and warning, there will be four letter words coming…in the last couple of weeks, I was suddenly contacted by someone using the name of one of my favorite authors. I will not say which one because I don’t want the real person to have to deal with this, although she has been alerted.

I’ve mentioned before that I have a great love of TikTok. That I’ve met online some wonderful people out there all doing the same things I have. For my small business account, myself and other owners have chatted and learned from each other about suppliers, or tips and tricks that have really come in handy. And on my #booktok account for this website that you’re on now, I’ve followed and am followed by other authors and we’ve had fun commiserating on editing woes and character issues as well as learning about new releases and book recommendations. So imagine my surprise when I got a direct message from one of my favorites!

Yeah it’s not her.

I’m acquainted with several scams on social by those trying to push fake small business help, always starting with messages like, ‘hey I went to your shop and I love your products!’ You know, utter bullshit.

Now I’m not going to lie, the first time I was messaged by ‘fake author’ for half a beat I got hopeful. She/he/whoever it actually was started off strong. ‘I like to talk with other authors’ kind of message. Sure, right? I mean, I talk to others, why can’t it be her? However, without letting out too much, because I don’t want this to be a ‘how to scam 101’ class, it was so blatantly not the real person it was astonishing. 

You may ask, how did I deal with such a person? I had some fun of course. I played the part of uber fan girl. Acting about 30 years younger than I actually am, swooning over said author and making it sound as if I was so honored that they reached out to me. (I had a lot of fun.)

It didn’t take long for the sideways sales pitch to creep in. Without saying too much to me, the questions began. How long have I been working on my book? Who does the marketing? Who is editing? Who is designing the cover? Who designed my website? Who is doing the book launch video? You know, typical things a famous author would ask a complete unknown while oddly, never talking about her own work. Just a barrage of questions sent my way. (Insert eye roll here.)

Let me also tell you this, I follow the real author on her other socials. And the kicker of all of this? Something I wasn’t sure I wanted to make public because again, I don’t want to give this person any tips on how do fake someone’s identity. But it was this…as of this post, the real author? Is not on TikTok. She does the occasional videos for her publishing house, but that’s it.

That’s not to say she won’t in the future, but as of now, she’s not on the platform.

The faker is stealing her graphics though, which really pisses me off. Frankly, the whole thing pisses me off. If you want to scam people, then don’t use someone else’s identity. Especially that of a woman who has worked damned hard to get to where she is now! Scamming leads to reputation hits and some idiots out there ARE going to believe that this is the real woman messaging them. If you do real services such as editing, etc, why pretend to be someone else? Do it legit. Don’t take down someone else because you are too chicken shit to do it the right way. And if you don’t and are just trying to get some unsuspecting person to pay for nonexistent services? Well then that’s just crap. Oh and remember, karma is a bitch.

I did block her so there’s that.

I find it funny. I live my life in the dark hours and in bed 99% of my time and yet, I still have opportunities to live some crazy adventures. And not just in books either!

Yes, always trying to look on the bright side of things, because why not?

And that is where I will leave you for today. Thanks so much for coming back to visit with me and if this is your first time here? Welcome! I hope you’ll  come back again. Oh and be sure to check out the links below the post.

Until next time…cheers!

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St. Patrick’s Day – And Some Backstory

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Hey guys, welcome back! Today is St. Patrick’s Day and I have to say, it is a favorite holiday of mine. While I can’t celebrate like I used to, I still continue some traditions of my own and love to look back at past celebrations as well.

My past is a strange one. For example, if one was to look at my resume, it would read more like a ‘what’s what’ than anything else. However, I’ve had some amazing experiences in my life and one was working for a professional theater. Why do I mention this? Patience grasshoppers.

Working at that theater had been a dream job for me. When I was 11 years old, I saw a production of Annie there and I vowed to myself that I would one day work in that space. Many years later, not only did I get the opportunity, but I actually got to meet/work with/take over for the girl who played Annie in the production I had seen! She was my age and it was so surreal when not only did I get the chance to get to know her, but when she left her backstage position for an acting role in another state, I got to take over for her. It still amazes me that I had been able to do this.

I was a theater major in school and learned a great deal working both on and backstage. So to be able to take what I knew and not only put it to use, but to do it in the theater I had wanted to work at? Priceless.

Our place performed not only Broadway caliber shows, but on ‘dark nights’ (night where the main stage shows weren’t used) we’d have specials: Comedians, music groups, etc. We also did a lot of seasonal shows as well and I’d try to work as many as I could, not just for the experience to learn more, but to also meet some great acts. (I actually got to work with the comedian I had seen years before on my prom night in NYC…talk about surreal.)

For St. Patrick’s Day, they always booked Irish acts and I was more than ecstatic when the Clancy Brothers were to appear. I am part Irish and grew up knowing more about my Irish heritage than anything else really. My great grandmother was from Dublin and even passed away on St. Patrick’s Day. I knew the Clancy’s music well and remember the days that my aunt would have them playing in her house. So when they needed someone to do multiple roles for their evening(s), I jumped at the chance!

I was more than fortunate enough to work several of their gigs. I got to know them, got to help load their stuff in, worked the spotlight and made sure they were comfortable backstage among other duties. When the shows were over though, that’s when the fun really began!

We’d hang out for hours afterwards. They’d tell story after story while the drinks were flowing and the laughs were never ending. I was very young back then, barely in my 20’s and being that I’m under 5ft tall, they kind of adopted me. I was all for it. The late and wonderful Liam called me his ‘Little Leprechaun’ and whenever I’d work a show for him, he was always the first to greet me with a monster hug.

Myself and Liam at the end of a good night. (I was so young.)

Years after I had not only left the theater, but also the state, I went to see them perform there again. This time, it was nice to be in the audience. Hoisting a beer with the crowd during Wild Rover, singing along to Jug of Punch and tearing up to Will Ye’ Go Lassie Go and The Parting Glass (Go Lassie Go was also sung at Liam’s gravesite during his burial).

My friend who was hosting that night gave us house seats and I took a chance and sent a note backstage. I didn’t know if they’d remember me at all, but I figured, let me try. Sure enough, I get a message back saying that I’d better get backstage after the show to have a drink with them. The friend I had brought with me, very Irish himself, was in shock and the time we had with them after the show was one I have always treasured. I didn’t have to work, I didn’t have to clean up the stage or anything. I got to just relax and enjoy and be one of them for the night. They even teased the hell out of me because when I did work their shows and was working the spotlight, the light always shook as I laughed during their nephew Robbie’s song, Sr. Josephine. Truly, a damned funny song and I’ll link it under this post.

It was a special time for me and as the years went by, I mourned every one of their passings. As he was the one I was the closest with, I watched the footage of Liam’s funeral and both laughed and cried horribly. Thanks to the internet, I got to see interviews he did, talking about his friendship with Bob Dylan. Then watched a Dylan interview with his side of things. They all lived incredible lives and I was more than honored to have worked and played with them. Even if it was only four or five nights out of my lifetime, they are nights I will never forget.

These men will live forever in my heart.

Speaking of never forgetting…while the Clancy’s were fun and more lighthearted, another Irish band I worked with and who’s name I’ll keep hidden for now, were more political and let’s just say, ‘spirited.’ I had a great time with them as well.

The first time I met them, they were having a fist fight amongst themselves near our dressing rooms. Apparently the argument they were having in the car spilled over and they decided to fight it out more physically when they arrived. I don’t know what I was thinking, but I got between them and thankfully they stopped the punches. I guess having a rather small female suddenly jump between three burly guys was enough to stop it. We laughed and then we had to stop some bleeding before they went onstage. Throughout the show, all you could hear in our headsets was stuff like, “um, we need more napkins for their heads” or “do we have any bandages around? The blood is still dripping.”

After the show, you’d never know anything had happened and they invited me out drinking with them at a local pub. I spent a good portion of that night hearing stories and shooting darts with them and of course the best question of the night, “what the f**k were you thinking jumping between us like that?” To this day, I don’t know how I did it, just that I did it. (After many many shots, the rest of that night is a blur.) It is still a hilarious memory that comes around this time of year, every year and I have to say, fighting or not, they put on a hell of a show. It was a fun and crazy night and I still thank them for the invite afterwards.

As I got older and found the group of friends I’ve had for the last twenty years (holy crap twenty!) we would have our ‘second Christmas’ on our city’s parade day. Parade Day here in town is a sacred one for many of us. We’d start early, pregaming before the parade even began with pints and yards of green beer and shots of Jameson flowing morning til close. Most days we’d stay at one spot but there were the occasional PD’s where we’d hop back and forth to our favorite spots on the street to make sure we saw everyone. From our local Hibernian’s club to three pubs that we frequented, we were never having a bad time.

We’d be treated to music all day from the bagpiper’s from local firehouses going from bar to bar to play inside for those in attendance to the music from whoever was performing on stage. I always call Parade Days ‘homecoming’ because some friends who had moved away would come back to town for the day’s events. Basically, they were awesome times spent with awesome people.

They still go on of course, unfortunately I had to miss this year’s because of health reasons. However thanks to social media, I was able to live vicariously through pics and stories. I miss the old days though. So much crazy fun and laughter that would make your stomach hurt for days afterwards. I miss those times. But that’s why we have memories, right?

Being at home these days, I still celebrate a bit. I do an annual Father Ted marathon…and if you don’t know what that is, Father Ted is a classic and totally irreverent Irish comedy show that ran in the 90’s and never gets old. (It’s on the free Tubi app btw.) I wear green, either my Irish shirt or one of my St. Patrick’s Yankees shirts, I listen to the Clancy’s and have a drink or two to celebrate the day. While it may not sound as exciting as the past days have been, (and it’s not), I still honor the day with great love and lots of laughs thinking of past celebrations. There were a whole lot of good times revolving around this day in my life and I am grateful for every damned one of them.

And that is where I will leave you for today. I know this wasn’t a ‘normal’ post for me, but that’s good! I need to get away from my usual stuff now and then. I just hope you enjoyed this post. I’ll put some links below to a few things I mentioned in this post for you to enjoy. 🙂

Until next time folks…Sláinte!

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These Clancy links are from around the time I knew the boys. 

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For this concert in its entirety, click: HERE

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For the first episode of Father Ted, click: HERE

(Please note, if you get offended easily, this show is not for you. It’s a comedy about priests who do not act like priests and it just gets shamelessly silly. You have been warned.)

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Stuck – Stuck – Oh Yeah, Stuck!

Hey guys, welcome back and welcome to March! We’ve made it through the dredges of the Winter months and Spring is on the horizon. Of course there is still lots of unpredictable weather ahead and I’m fine with it. I love a good stretch of dark, rainy weather. But then, I’m a vampire and am not too fond of sunlight.

Anywhooooo….been trudging along with stuff and trying to find the humor in the everyday nonsense that is life. After all, if we do not do this, we would spontaneously combust and really, who has the time for that?

The one area where my humor is currently lacking is my book. No not in the content, after all, I have it pegged as a romcom (albeit with some serious undertones), but with the execution. I mentioned in previous posts that I’ve found a solution to my word cutting issue. Well, that has since gone out the window.

My solution so far this week has been to try and clear my head a bit. Watch more meditation and ASMR videos (yes, I love ASMR, so relaxing) and recently I’ve found someone on YouTube who deals with art therapy. Using different art techniques to focus on the task at hand to clear your mind up for other things. I love this idea as I used to create things to do just that. Refocus my energy to open myself up to new ideas.

I do this a lot while I’m making dinner or in the shower or even reading. Suddenly an idea comes to me and it’s the eureka moment I crave. I’ve thought of many plot lines while doing other things. In fact, over the weekend I came up with another story idea and had to get it out of my head. I ended up writing two chapters of it which actually felt great as I’ve greatly missed the writing part of writing. However, it didn’t help me with the task at hand.

Anyway, when I got into this rut of just reading my manuscript over and over and not coming up with something that would help me, having this artist woman say exactly what I used to say to myself? It was like a mini eureka moment. I mean, how have I not been doing this? It’s my pattern after all! When I used to make jewelry, I’d come up with so many ideas for other things. When I design a new card or sticker or bookmark for my creative business, I become clear headed about life stuff. However, sometimes it takes an outsider to give you that virtual slap against your head to jiggle your brain into action. Now I just need to find that trigger that lets me know how to get from point A to point B in my book.

In the meantime, I’ve been revisiting some other small business owners’ socials that I’ve followed for a while to learn how to create new products and how to integrate certain things into the shops that I have now. I’m thinking that this incredible bout of editor’s block may end up helping me in other ways. I just really, REALLY want to finish this book.

If you’ve been following me, you know of my passion for this work of mine. I love it. I really do. And I think the fact that my mind won’t get off the endgame of it…having it published and in the readers’ hands…is now more of a distraction than motivation. As someone who has trouble with focus, I need to get back to the motivation of it.

So here I am, hoping that by writing this post and getting my worries out into the universe, my mind will clear up even more and I will suddenly get the revelation that I so greatly need. Because I know it’s there. I can see it off in the distance waiting for me. Now I just need to figure out the best way to find it.

And that is where I will leave you for today. I know that most posts, I try to leave you with a bit of motivation. I really strive for that and do hope you got something from this post as a whole. However, every now and then, a ramble such as this just needs to be let out and I thank you for being here to read these ramblings.

Until next time…cheers!

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Blizzard – Edits – Learning on TikTok

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Hey guys, welcome back! So since the last time I was here with you all, we got a ‘little’ snow. I’m sure you’ve heard by now that we in the Northeast US were inundated with a bit of flakeage. I gotta say, it was really something to watch.

I’m a snow person. I really am. My inner kid still looks to see if there will be school the next day and a huge part of me wishes I could go out and play in it. Instead, I made a big cup of cocoa and watched overnight as the winds picked up and the snow got to white out conditions…and I enjoyed every damned minute of it. Part of it was that the Olympics were over and I had nothing to watch anymore, so I dove deep into the intensity of the storm. Nature is incredible and should be respected and watching this storm? Reminded me of just that.

As fierce as the winds of that storm were, when we received even more snow yesterday, it was a much different type. Heavy but quiet. The kind that highlights every tree branch making the outdoors look like an Ansel Adam’s black and white photograph, creating light and shadows where there were none before.

One of my favorite things about snow is the quiet it creates. Nature’s own insulation from the noise of life. The only sound you hear are the flakes landing onto each other creating a blanket of silence. It is peaceful. It is somehow warm despite the cold. It is a time to stop and reflect and look at the new vision it has created…a wonderland of white that reminds us that nature…is…beautiful.

Having said all of that, while kids had the days off because of the weather, I was here toiling away at my manuscript. I approached it a bit differently this time after learning a few things from an editor I follow on TikTok.

Let me just say this, I love TikTok. I know many think it’s just a place for silly dance challenges, crazy people doing crazy things for attention and of course, there is a part of it that is like that. However, there are SO many other ways to use the platform.

As a former social media specialist, I would have killed to have this platform available when I was working. I didn’t like doing videos back then. As someone who doesn’t like to be on camera herself, I felt limited. However, it is such a different atmosphere now, that you don’t need to be visible and the creativity of TikTok alone is endless.

I started using it with my small businesses as a free way to promote my products, send out updates and better yet, meet other small business owners. I learned so much from these folks, I really did. When I decided to start a creative business (stickers, cards, bookmarks, clothing, etc) I looked to these folks both on TikTok and YouTube to find the best ways to start out with little money. To find out where to get some things made and find discounts share and swap tips and we even buy from each other.

When I began getting deeply serious about my writing, I decided to start a #booktok. For those of you who don’t know, booktok is a subdivision of sorts of the main platform dedicated to readers and writers alike.

From the reader standpoint, I’ve discovered new authors to read, popular books I might be interested in (as I’m always looking out to add to my TBR) and then came the best discovery of all…author profiles.

I’ve connected with other authors, both beginning and established, as well as publishers and editors. One of the best things about finding other authors from around the world? Finding out that many of the struggles we face? Universal. We are not alone in doing the crazy things we do, including having astronomical word counts.

Recently after posting a video of my own with my current read, my feed brought up an editor I honestly forgot I was following. She shares quick tips that are so damned helpful, it’s like taking a master class for free. When this particular tip played, I watched it several times to let it sink in. I then went to my own book and started from the beginning again.

That one fast tip helped me cut almost 5000 more words from the first 20 chapters alone! Something so simple yet I wasn’t seeing it. Sometimes, that’s what we need whether we realize it or not. Another perspective to push you in the right direction.

I’ve read my own manuscript upwards of a dozen times. I get lost in the story instead of the cuts I’m supposed to be making so often, I’m convinced this is one of the reasons it is taking me so much longer to figure out how to get this done. This one editing tip out of hundreds I’ve watched both by her and others, woke me up. Opened my eyes to something I was doing over and over again and never even realized it.

Once I paid attention to how I was saying something in dialogue or description, it clicked. I was yelling at the screen about how often I do this. How there is no need for over describing a scene, or explaining laughter when the reader should experience it for themselves. As someone with an editing background herself, I should be more than aware of this. Again, perspective.

After the first few cuts, it got so much easier. I was a madwoman on a mission. I was going through the chapters much faster cutting this, cutting that and soon the word counts were getting lower. Make no mistake, I still have hundreds of thousands to get rid of, or move to the sequel, but to see the progress move along this much faster than it has been in a while? The relief is real.

Now I’m not saying the book will be ready to submit next week. TONS of work still left to go. But at least I have a new starting point of how to do my edits. And because of this, I’ve also been rewriting scenes that are making the book take shape in a new way. Adding more depth to the characters that should have been acknowledged long ago while also decreasing the word count.

So I say, if you think that TikTok is just a doom scrolling time waster? Sure. It can be that. I’ve certainly spent hours escaping life watching cute animals and other stuff as well. It can be a fun app. But there is so much more to it and learning from others and supporting one another? These are the added bonuses of social media in any form. I am personally grateful to those I have learned from and look forward to more lessons that will help me get out of my own head and make the progress I know I can make.

And that is where I will leave you for today. Thanks for being here and I hope some of this resonated with you! Until next time…cheers!

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Victory – Defeat – Inspiring Peace

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Hey guys, welcome back! I’m going to go out of my usual  box this post because I haven’t been able to concentrate since the opening of the Winter games in Milan.

I mentioned in my previous post that. I’ve been a fan of the Winter Olympics since I was a kid. As much as I like the Summer games, I like the Winter ones so much more. They are action packed, sit on the edge of your seat, holy crap did that just happen kind of sports that get my blood pumping. I can’t stop watching. And because I’m up in the overnight hours, I see a lot of the competitions live before they head to prime time reruns.

 I’m watching so intently, that the screen in front of me, the one I’m supposed to be working on, is the one being neglected. I’ll read a sentence, watch three skiers go down the slalom run. I’ll read a paragraph, watch the snowboarders spin until I’m dizzy. I’ll scroll to the next page and then watch as a bobsled almost flips over and don’t even get me started on curling. (This is the first year I’ve watched a lot of it and I’ve actually yelled at the tv during matches.)

That being said, I’m not getting much done and my sleep schedule, that is already more than screwed up, is getting that much worse. I’ve been up until the afternoon and then finally sleep until much, much later only to start watching the games all over again. I’m afraid to miss anything so I’m trying not to drink a lot of liquids. (You get where I’m going with that, right?) My blood pressure is I’m sure going up, because I keep yelling at the announcers to shut up or the camera guys to stop with the up the nose close ups of an athlete that just crashed and burned.

I live near the NBC Sports HQ building where they are calling all the shots and it is taking every ounce of control not to walk over there to say, “please, enough of the drones!” But I digress…

As frustrating as some of it has been, I love to watch. I love to root for the underdogs and those from my home state of Connecticut. I love to see those who may be competing for their last Olympic Games pass along their knowledge to the next generation of athletes. I love that a lot of the skaters chose music from wayyyy before they were born and that many competing, pushed the boundaries of their sport just to see if they could do it.

 I love watching these competitors from different countries cheer for one another and trade pins or autographs with each other so that they have their own souvenirs. All making friends and showing the world what it means to be at these games.

I’ve been alive long enough to remember when women weren’t allowed to do a lot of these extreme sports and now to see them compete on the same hills, the same tracks, the same venues as the guys? Hell yeah I’m all for cheering them on! (Go Half Pipe!)

There’s been bumps and bruises, broken limbs (we love you Lindsay!) and tears from low scores and times that have kept them off the podiums. Horrible weather conditions and many MANY crashes. But no matter how they’ve done, no matter if they won a medal or not, these athletes can say that they made it to the Olympic Games and that is something no one can ever take away from them.

There’s only a few days left and while a part of me is happy about that so I can remember how to live again, I will miss it…a lot. I get excited to watch months in advance knowing that there is something fun coming up that will take away the dreariness of the dregs of Winter and make it fun. (The games also give me ideas for my next life to become a snowboarder or luge runner.)

There is so much inspiration that comes from the Olympics whether Winter, Summer or Special. The back stories of what it took to get them there and how some have survived both injuries and tragedies. To see little kids watch and get the spark inside of them that makes them realize that hey, maybe they can grow up and do it too! That is what these games are all about…oh and of course Snoop Dog because how could I forget him?

Yes I’m still reading, writing and editing and all of that but really, it has been nice to lose myself in the highs, the lows, the cheers and the battles faced across snow and ice. To see all their hard work come down to thousands of a second in some cases and to watch as for a little over two weeks, the world comes together for something good…something…peaceful.

And that is where I will leave you for today. Until next time…cheers!

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